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After being connected to more than 400 relationships with married women, Baltasar Ebang Engonga, the influential Director General of Equatorial Guinea’s National Financial Investigation Agency (Anif), has drawn attention to the covert lives of married but available women worldwide.
More than just eyebrows are raised by this revelation, which sheds light on an aspect of partnerships that is frequently discussed but rarely acknowledged: the discreet, secretive, and remarkably well-organized lifestyles of married women who leave their unions. It’s safe to assume that these married women would never have been found by their husbands if it weren’t for the fraud probe.
Let’s face it, men have always been capable of infidelity, but for a very long time, men’s affairs have taken center stage. It is practically expected by society, which mocks the “wandering eye” as a characteristic of men.
What’s most astonishing is how naturally married women can blend such affairs into their lives. Many of them understand that the key to discretion lies in simplicity.
Studies have shown that women often cheat for more complex reasons than men. Emotional neglect, a lack of intimacy, or just feeling unappreciated in their marriages can lead them to find validation outside the relationship. Unlike men, who often pursue affairs for variety or thrill, women tend to be more discerning about their partners in infidelity.
As many psychologists argue, some women use these affairs as a way to preserve their marriages rather than destroy them. It’s paradoxical, but some say that the escape provided by a discreet affair lets them return home with renewed patience or energy.
