A woman’s bedroom confession has sparked debate on social media, despite it being an increasingly popular trend.
Tianna Joellee revealed she and her partner sleep in different bedrooms. The couple, who are 21 and 20, have been together since they were 17 and 16.
On social media, she shared a video of their bedrooms. Ms Joellee’s was filled with white furniture and LED lights. Meanwhile, her boyfriend had a darker look. Both simply had a desk, their bed and clothing in the rooms.
“You live with your boyfriend but have separate bedrooms,” she captioned the video.
“And they lived happily ever after.”
But, the clip sparked a heated debate.
“People need to know this is NORMAL! Haven’t shared a bed in about two years! It’s a struggle when we go on holiday,” one said.
Another said: “Could never relate imma need my man with me.”
“Been with my partner nine years and we have separate bedrooms. He is a super light sleeper and I have restless leg syndrome. Sleeping separately has saved our relationship,” one shared.
Another commented: “I used to think this was weird but now I understand why and think it’s a great idea.”
“I love this but then no because I’m crazy and think he’ll snap pics to girls acting like he lives alone,” one said.
Another commented: “I could never, I sleep better knowing he’s beside me.”
“This is so so healthy and I wish more people realized that,” one said.
It’s not the first time a couple have gone viral over their sleeping arrangements.
Melbourne woman Chantel Billy revealed she and her partner also have separate bedrooms, saying they would meet in her partner’s room, have a cup of tea and watch a television episode. Then, they part ways.
Again, some called it healthy. Others suggested there was something wrong with it.
Ms Billy said it simply lets them both get a good night’s sleep.
“Having my own bedroom for the first time since childhood has been such a fuel for my creativity and I feel like I can fully embrace my own aesthetic without having to consider my partner. I think it is so healthy to have your own space,” she told news.com.au at the time.
“I was so shocked that so many people accused my relationship of lacking love. These people have absolute no insight into what my relationship is like.”
Last year Chloe Szepanowski announced she and her fiance Mitch Orval sleep in separate rooms. The couple have two children. Arti and Sunny often end up in the couple’s bed. So, Mr Orval ends up on the couch.
“We juggle the household and kids and if there’s any time at night we will watch something or give each other a massage, have a bath, get frisky,” she said during the Instagram Q&A.
“And then other nights we wanna watch our own shows or do our own things.
“It’s a wild ride, but we doing it together at the end of the day. It becomes almost a mutual understanding and we take what we get.”
Social media users had a strong reaction.
“This relationship is doomed,” one even remarked.
“If that’s your relationship at 24 I would be worried. Get those kids out of your bed and into their own bed … before it’s too late,” another suggested.
However, many defended the move, telling the young couple to “do what feels right for you”.
Sleep divorce is a rising trend. The main reason for it is sleep loss. Tamara Green, a New York couples therapist, told TODAY.com the move has improved couples love lives.
“They get enough rest and they feel like they are able to hear each other out and get their needs met,” she said.
However it’s important to schedule time together before you go to sleep, she said.
Not everyone agreed. Dr Carol Ash, a sleep expert, said it’s “healthier” for couples to sleep together. She said it improves sleep quality.
